exes
I’ve never understood the slander ones make on their exes. Perhaps I’m the villain in everyone’s story. Or, just maybe, there is nothing I can hate of a woman I love.
I loved them for a reason. No matter the flaws, they showed me their truth everyday, the person they are, and the person they were aspiring to be. And everyday until the day we ended, I continued to choose them and love those parts of them they gave me. The parts of themselves that I carry around with me, immortalized in memory. And to hate them would be hating not only parts of myself now, but to reject every notion of acceptance I gave them in the act of love.
This doesn’t say to forgive your ex for their transgressions against you. But this is to say that you can still hold love for something that wasn’t good for you or didn’t work for you. Because love isn’t about if it’s convenient or easy, it’s about seeing and accepting a human in their truth.